I promised myself I’d only post personal stuff on think dave! occasionally. Today is an occasion so please bear with me.
7 years ago today Karin and I were joined in (sort of) holy matrimony. We’ve been together for almost 12 years so I’m qualified to talk about this stuff. Here are 2 quick tips to get any marriage off to a good start.
Tip 1: Know when to admit you’re wrong
The priest who married us was a legend. During the counseling sessions we had before the wedding he taught us that you always need to know when to say sorry. And you need to mean it. Three phrases he taught us have been the guiding principle of our marriage:
I am sorry.
I was wrong.
Please forgive me.
Tip 2: Don’t sleep with the mailman
Marriages generally fail because people sleep with someone else or they want to sleep with someone else. There’s nothing wrong with perving over the mailman (Personally I think my mailman is scary, but that’s just me) or someone you work with, but you’re not allowed to take it any further.
You made a commitment to stick with your partner forever. If you can’t handle monogamy, don’t get married.
Needless to say I still make the most ridiculous mistakes (like forgetting to say Happy Anniversary this morning!) but I never forget that marriage is a funfilled adventure; an evolving entity. You adapt, you get used to each other’s quirks and you take time to enjoy each day, for better or for worse.
Oh, and marriage also means you can go out to anniversary lunch together at Burger King! Pregnant women are odd…
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Happy Anniversary!
And I agree, sleeping with the mailman, even if it was totally accidental, it a huge mistake.
Yeah, you definitely want to keep the “wandering eye” at bay. And the first tip is solid gold…learning how to swallow your pride and say “I was wrong” is one of the best things you can ever do to improve a marriage.
If it was only that simple …
Unless of course you’re married to a mailman, in which case it’s probably fine
Disclaimer: I like mailmen. They bring me nice things (except those pesky bills). Please don’t go postal on me.
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